While taking trains to wherever in Japan, you probably find ads of marriage-hunting agencies. It apparently sounds rediculous for people who have never heard new trend regarding marriages in Japan. Most of my friends from foreign countries say "you're joking" ,then I say "no, I'm not joking", started to explain to them what it's all about.
I happened to spend a christmas eve at my friend's flat with a few female friends of hers, who are actually 29-30 years old. Sadly, what they were talking about was mostly about marriages. To be honest, that's something I got surprised a lot the fact that they're too much obssessed about hunting guys and getting married. I don't say this kind of women account for a big part of Japan, but obviously there are a lot. That's why businesses in terms of marriage hunting are inclined to become unbelievably vigorous lately. Thinkable factors are, for example, pressure from their parents, social pressure which deems unmarried women something wrong, and less chances to interact with the right men in the right time. In such a society with fewer children, this trend might help people getting married and having children. However, I don't really think it's natural way we do up to marriages.
Compared with tendency in old days, indeed, more and more women are high educated equally with men, working in different business fields, and pretty much independent. Yet, stories totally change when it's time that they become 30s'. Not all relatives don't put pressure on them to get married though, generally speaking, majority of them do so, and I've actually seen one of my cousins have been bothered by the same problem.
I don't think that female friends are simply eager to get married either. There is obviously a social pressure to force them to do that even if they're not sure it's the right thing to do. It's pretty sad truth, but true.
Well, I've thought that no one should disturb their life by putting much pressures on them about marriages and shouldn't complain anything about their way of life as long as they're totally independent and not bothering anyone financially. Not getting married? Not having children? So what? There are always reasons why they choose that way, and in many cases, it's because of circumstances which make them difficult to do that.
Maybe we've got to import new marriage system...like PACS in France so that people can get together more smoothly and regardless sexuality as well.
Any opinions are welcome.
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